The question ‘why is there suddenly more trauma?’ is often heard. With everything I know about trauma, which by now is quite a lot, I have long had a strong sense that there isn’t actually more trauma. However, I was not quite able to articulate clearly why I felt that, beyond believing we are starting to recognise it more. As I read Rutger Bregman’s book ‘Utopia for Realists’, a lot is suddenly falling into place. He does not articulate the situation related to trauma, but what he describes gives me language for my long-held view.
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Children Need More Than a Loving Family
There is much mention of children’s need for a loving family on social media and in advocacy campaigns. Particularly from those working in child protection reform. There is no doubt that children absolutely do need this. However, as someone who grew up in a loving family, I need to tell you that that is not enough.
Continue reading “Children Need More Than a Loving Family”Learning to Hold Space
It’s all great to talk about needing to resolve, and help others resolve, trauma but that’s much easier said than done. Working with a traumatised person to help them face, feel, and process what has happened to them in a way that helps them heal and move on from it is extremely complex and requires specialised expertise and training. Something that, unfortunately and surprisingly, even many psychologists and psychiatrists have never been trained for. However, being unable to do all of that, does not mean we, lay people, are unable to do anything.
Continue reading “Learning to Hold Space”Discovering the Road to Peace
While out on a walk, letting my mind drift, things started to connect in my brain. What is happening in the world at the moment, my professional knowledge and my personal experiences came together to form what seems like a coherent answer to an apparently unanswerable question.
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