You may have heard it said that trauma is not caused by what happened, but by how we respond to what happens, internally. This is true, but I think it is incomplete. It panders to the desire to put something incredibly complex into a few words or a short sentence. The shortest way I can think of to formulate what is really meant, is as follows:
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Children Need More Than a Loving Family
There is much mention of children’s need for a loving family on social media and in advocacy campaigns. Particularly from those working in child protection reform. There is no doubt that children absolutely do need this. However, as someone who grew up in a loving family, I need to tell you that that is not enough.
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It is scary to look around at everything that is happening in the world at the moment. In the face of so many tragic and scary circumstances, it can be hard not to lose hope and feel powerless. However, I believe that there is something we can do, something we can work on in various ways ourselves to bring about change. It will not change everything overnight and it is simple, but not easy, but I do believe it is effective. It boils down to the Dutch saying ‘Verbeter de wereld, begin bij jezelf’ (Improve the world, start with yourself), but not in a finger-wagging way.
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Aside from spreading awareness about the impact of trauma and how to get beyond it, through this website and the book I am working on, I also want to apply the knowledge to set real changes in motion. I am delighted that over the past year, I have gone from a powerful but vague sense of how to make a major difference in the world through addressing trauma to a very concrete plan for how I can do something about that in a practical sense. As it turns out, it lies at the heart of the work I have been doing for the past 18 years. Its outline still sounds grandiose and theoretical: Radical child protection reform that goes beyond addressing symptoms and kicking the can down the road. But I have found a simple, practical starting point.
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